Some people blame ‘time’, ‘energy’, ‘money’ or ‘opportunity’. Even worse they blame other people for refusing to change.
Today I want to tell you nothing but the whole truth, the thing that is holding you back is your “own sense of self.”
In other words: you might well be limited by your attachment to the ‘old you’ and by your eagerness to be seen as consistent and reliable.
We all have an attachment to who we think we are.
We all have a notion of ourselves and of who others think we are as well.
For example: you may see yourself as someone who has been working and who cannot change to become an entrepreneur despite the fact that your passion tells you otherwise.
Or perhaps you see yourself as being a local at heart, who will never take an opportunity overseas.
We like the sense of feeling comfortable and following the same routine since we were born.
We also want to follow in the foot prints of someone. We don’t want to do something that is ‘out of character’ and we don’t want to go back on things we’ve said.
But is this really something you should cling to? Maybe your concept of ‘you’ is outdated?
The million dollar question: “Can’t you start your own foot prints that someone will follow?”
Change is the Key
Everything has changed, the world has changed. There is wireless, television, Facebook as well as climate change.
You are the only thing that has not changed.
If you can’t adapt, then the world will change around you and you will become a Stone Age thinker.
In Stone Age everyone goes to school to become a nurse, a soldier, a policemen or a teacher.
In today’s world people start their own businesses and people are millionaires.
With Stone Age thinking you will never go forward nor backward. One thing guaranteed that you will become the “poorest of the poor.”
With that in mind, what benefit is there for you to actively refuse to adapt and grow?
Mind you own business
Have you ever told someone the way you felt and then changed your mind… only to then feel that you can’t go back on what you said?
Have you ever wanted to dress differently, or take a sudden serious tone, but felt enormous pressure from people’s expectations of you?
To try and satisfy other people is like being in prison.
And the irony is that it is a lie: the truest version of ‘you’ is simply the ‘you’ that you naturally want to be.
What to do
The best way to be ‘you’ is to drop all expectations and simply act in the moment based on your emotions and your feelings.
If you really feel passionate about starting your own business. Do not think about what people will say.
Trust your intuition, follow your burning desire and stop limiting yourself.
The person you are now is biologically completely different from the person you were even 10 years ago. Accept it and move on. Change!